Do You Self-Sabotage Your Success?

How do we self-sabotage our success?

Janie Behr, a life coach, talks about ways we create self-sabotage. Self-sabotage involves beliefs buried in our subconscious mind, which counter our conscious intentions. Janie says, Over reacting to stressful situations is a form of self-sabotage that causes emotional stress. Do you know people who create unnecessary conflicts and emotional drama?

Teenage girls thrive on emotional drama. When another girl says something towards another girl that triggers an emotional reaction, feelings explode on both sides like a nuclear reactor. Subconscious unresolved feelings, for instance related to low self-esteem, come to the surface. Usually these feelings never get resolved on a conscious level and another emotional explosion lies hidden down the way like a roadside bomb.

Do you engage in a lot of negative self-talk inside your head? Do you interpret positive events as negative? Do you sabotage yourself by creating self-fulfilling prophecies to prove your negative beliefs?

We are all too familiar with the ongoing critical voice, critic, or judge in our heads that drones on with the same story about how we lack or are not good enough in some way.  Unknown to many of us, we also have subconscious limiting beliefs which cut us down to size. These undermine our already low self-esteem and sense of unworthiness.

I believe as a school boy that I was the lowest man on the totem pole. In other words, in comparison to all the other boys in my school I belonged at the bottom of the social rung of popularity. That belief filled my days and I acted accordingly. I never questioned where the belief came from and accepted it as truth. Thinking about it now I probably picked it up from my father who I believed had little self-confidence in himself. Fortunately, we can become aware of our negative self-talk and change it into positive self-talk.

Do you sabotage your relationships by being aggressive rather than assertive? Do you know the difference between aggressive and assertive?  Do you let others walk all over you for fear of saying no and sabotage your own self-esteem?  You can learn how to be assertive and speak up and say no to begin establishing good personal boundaries.

Do you sabotage yourself by taking a pessimistic view and seeing things worse than they are? This undermines your esteem, health, and success. Become aware of your limiting beliefs and begin looking at the positive aspects in your life, begin practicing gratitude. You can begin a gratitude journal writing in it each day.

If we choose to do nothing and stay unaware, our subconscious beliefs will always override and win over our conscious intents and goals. Then we wonder why nothing works in our lives. Choose to look at your limiting beliefs, your level of self-esteem, your lack of confidence in your abilities, and become clear about your life goals.

Which of the self-sabotage methods apply to you? Do you want to reduce the lack of success in your life and quit sabotaging yourself?  If so, break through your denials, discover and express your unmet needs, strive to uncover your unconscious patterns of pain, face your fears, and take back your power.

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